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Tuesday, 24 February 2009

I'm throwing a pity party...

and your all invited
I opened up Facebook last night and my news feed was full of photos of people on vacation in the Caribbean, a family members cruise update, then two others (my sister and sister-in-law) chatting about their upcoming trip to an exotic destination (reason for not asking me to go along was lame at best), then it happened; resentment/jealousy/envy started building up inside me then I exploded, spewing forth negativity and nastiness. What the HELL is wrong with me? Is just that cabin fever has set in, have I totally lost it or am I just becoming a bitter, judgmental person, hating on everyone's happiness and good fortune? GAH! Today I am trying to wipe these feelings out of my mind, but am having a hard time doing it - I keep boiling in this disgusting emo stew.

"Resentment or grudges do no harm to the person against whom you hold these feelings but every day and every night of your life, they are eating at you" ~Norman Vincent Peale

How do yo deal with strong emotions of resentment, jealousy and/or envy?

{special thanks to my niece for being my hand model}


Lee said...

Would it make you feel any better if I told you I'm freezing my butt and I have a sick kid at home today :)

Hey! I have a solution: two ticket and we can both head south.

LarryG said...

maybe some yoga...
or the your exercise machine of choice...
of chocolate ...
or the other chocolate... :)

something to put some emotion into action!

how about a snow'person' ---

i am off to your flicker to see what's impressive there... i know you got tons of great ones!

blessings to you Jack!

Liz said...

My favorite quote or saying on this topic (and I don't know where it comes from): "Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die from it."

only a movie said...

Ooh, Liz I like that. I would like to frame that and put it over my son's door. He is in a February funk. Which is helping me be funk-y too.
Too much damn snow, Jack, I think that is part of it.
I wish I had something to offer - this too shall pass. Just know that. Also, you're not alone in it.
Hang in.

Pseudonymous High School Teacher said...

I'm jumping on the I like liz's quote. I think the fact that we recognize it is not good for us to feel envy is a good step. But you feel what you feel sometimes.

Thanks for the dream interpretation on my blog. I really enjoyed your take.

Jack said...

Sorry to hear you have sick lil'one at home Lee. That flu is kicking every ones butt it seams... hope your little one feels better soon :)

Larry, thanks for the Flickr montages you sent... them along with the chocolate and yoga were all great pick-me-upers.
Ps. we can remain friends as long as you never, EVER mention that dirty "S" word on here again ;)

Thanks for the quote Liz, how true!

Movie: You know it is true... funky moods do rub off on others - oh my poor family.

Admitting I have a problem with envy is a step in the right direction I suppose...Thanks Pseudo :)

Amber said...

It's not very often I feel like that, but when I do I talk it out with someone, and that usually does the trick. It's always there to a minor degree afterwards, but much easier to handle.
Make you're own Tropical Vacation at home with your family. Crank up the heat for a night, buy an inflatable wading pool and put it in your living room, buy those cheesy Dollar Store Palm Trees, hang some streamers, and Lei everyone when they come home for the day. Drink fancy Crushed Ice drinks, and watch a few tropical movies.
And keep thinkin my vacation is a million times better than yours, and it didn't put a huge dent int he bank account.

Shadow said...

ha, how. not every effectively... cry, scream, fight, purchase said item of envy, withdraw into my self, pretend they don't exist, all not very productive. but i've got a wonderful therapist as of yesterday who's willing to share her immense knowledge with me... will keep you posted?!?!?!?! in the mean time, try some chocolate, hugs sweet jack!

thistle said...

Loving Liz's quote...definitely frameable. And i also used to have problems with jealousy and envy, nut after it nearly wrecked a dear friendship i have it under control in some aspects of my life. But it still rears it's ugly head sometimes...usually in the work sphere....ack. But that, as you know, is a touchy subject at the best of times for me, so maybe it doesn't quite count ;)