Kokology: Like A Monkey In A Cage

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What is Kokology?

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• Say the first thing that pops into your head 
• Don’t try to predict answers 
• Be honest with yourself 
• Be prepared 
• Keep an open mind
  

They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and that is true of animal as well as man. When you look into the eyes of a friendly dog, it seems to be begging you to play, while if you stare into the eyes of a cat, it looks back with cool indifference. Animals have feelings and personalities just like humans, and if we would only heed our eyes, we'd see how close our worlds really are.

You are strolling through a zoo, watching the animals in their cages. You stop in front of a single monkey in its cage and your eyes meet. The expression is its eyes seems to be communicating something. What is the monkey trying to tell you?

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Caged animals are mentally associated with the loss of freedom and restraints placed on our natural instincts by society. And because they are human-like in so many ways, it is particularly easy for us to empathize and identify with the monkeys. The message the monkey was sending corresponds to your true feelings about the restrictions on your freedom. Specifically, they are words you'd like, but are unable, to say about a company, a group or a social system that you feel is running your life. Do any of these answers sound familiar?

"Boy, I'd like a banana". You are easily pleased and, therefore, easily controlled. Hold out for more and you might e surprised at how much you're worth to others. Who knows, you might even get two bananas.

"All right, move along, nothing to see here." It's not the pressure of conforming to society's rules that gets to you so much as it is the lack of privacy. Don't be afraid to go off by yourself to be alone with your thoughts from time to time. You're only a single monkey; the zoo will survive for a while without you.

"I think I'm going crazy in this cage. Get me outta here!" As a licensed Kokologist, i am prescribing you a long vacation on a nice quiet island. Take it!

Kokology -- Oodles Of Doodles

WoooHooo, puppy day & Kokology Thursday.  That's right folks, today is the day we get to bring little Mika the Silky-Yorkie home.  We are so excited here, we can hardly contain ourselves.  I think I bought every toy in the pet store yesterday.  Hope he loves us as much as we love him!

Now, who's up for a game of Kokology today?

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What is Kokology?

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• Be prepared 
• Keep an open mind
  

Oodles Of Doodles:
Schoolchildren understand that page margins were made for doodling.  It's almost sinful to let all the empty white space in a notebook go to waste.  Scribbles, squiggles, googly-eyed faces, and hearts with arrows quickly grow and multiply, crowding into the writing space mid page.  give a child a notebook , a pencil, and sufficient time (say, the length of a history lesson), and that boundless imagination spills forth onto page after page.  We're taught that doodling is a bad habit, and the notebooks we keep as adults are neater (if duller) for it.  but wouldn't it be a little sad to see a student whose notebooks were filled with page after page after page of neatly printed notes and flanked by clean margins on both sides?

Imagine you are a child, doodling happily away.  You have begun to draw a picture of a bear.  Which of the following looks most like your art?

1.  A bear snoozing away contentedly.
2.  A bear with its arms raised in a frightened pose.
3.  A mother bear leading her cub.
4.  A cute bear, like a stuffed toy.

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In the psychology of animal imagery, the bear is a symbolic instance of the archetypal Great Mother.  The characteristics of the Great Mother are as diverse as the different types of experience of motherly care.  This experience plays a somewhat different role in the minds of women and men.  For women, the bear you saw yourself drawing is your image of yourself as a mother or the kind of mother you expect to become; for men, it is the image you have of your own mother.  Whether you are a man or a woman, this image may play an important part in your selection of a mate.  They say that men end up marrying women who remind them of their moms, and  women are drawn to men who bring out their maternal instincts.

1. Sleepy bear. Your image of the mother is relaxed and easygoing, free to be herself and giving that same freedom to her children. She may not keep the neatest of dens, but her home is a place where you always feel welcome and safe to snuggle in for a long winter's nap.

2. Scary bear. You see the mother as a powerful force, possibly even to the extent that she dominates the home. All mothers want what's best for their children; some demand it. Like it or not, in her family, this mother knows best.

3. Momma bear. You have and idealized image of the mother: caring, loving and tender. It may be stereotypical, but it's a nice stereotype to have. But try to have more reasonable expectations for real-world moms. After all, bears don't have to rush home from work in time to pick up the cubs from soccer practice and get dinner in the oven.

4. Cuddly bear. Your image of the mother is someone who can't necessarily be relied upon, except to be lovable. As much as she may want to play mommy, it seems that more often than not it's her own children who end up taking care of her. But as hopelessly adorable as she is no one seems to mind.

Kokology - All The World's A Stage

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• Keep an open mind

Life is often compared to a drama--it's and easy comparison to make.  The coming and going of the characters, the suspense as each day's plot unfolds, the lines we hear spoken, and the acts performed:  you could say we live each day on stage.  There are even genres to the stories--office comedies and after-school specials, sometimes even a mystery or romance .  And the star of each daily episode is...YOU!  That's what makes life's drama so fascinating and endlessly varied--every cast member in every scene, every extra on the street, is the star of his or her own story in a plot that gets more complex every day.  Even the simplest exchange between two people can have infinite implications as the drama plays out.  Maybe that's why, despite the same old character and story lines we can never seem to get enough.  In the next scenario the curtain is up, the crowd is waiting and the spotlight is on YOU. 

1.  You are a member of a theater group.  What type of play do you most want to act in.  In the play, what do you picture as your big scene? Explain.

2.  You audition for the part and are chosen from among all your fellow performers for the starring role.  What words does you main rival have for you on being chosen?

3.  At the last dress rehearsal before opening night, you see the director sitting with his arms crossed in front of him.  He looks dissatisfied with you performance.  What is it he doesn't like?

4.  The performance goes off without a hitch, and the play was a huge success.  The crowd has gone home happy after the encore, and the theater is quiet.  What do you say to the empty hall as you stand there looking out for the darkened stage?

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The theater represents a world of imagination you create for yourself. Your answers to this game reveal what lies waiting in your own future.

1. The type of drama you wanted to perform corresponds to your future. Did you foresee a melodrama, a tragedy, or a slapstick pie fight? And your big scene reveals what you predict will be the turning point in your life. If it was a love scene, there may be romantic lead waiting to change our life. Was it a scene of parting with friends, of meeting new people, or of a heated battle? These all could be the cues for you to take center stage and make your command performance.

2. The image you have of your rival reflects how your future self might react to the person you are today. The rival's words give an idea of how you think you will feel while looking back on your life when you're older. Was your response something encouraging like "nice going!" Keep up the good work!" Or was there a sense of caution: "Don't get a big head. One good show doesn't make you a star. You've still got a long way to go till you make it to the big time".

3. The director watches every aspect of the performance with cold and objective eye. His dissatisfaction was caused by a weakness you unconsciously recognize in yourself. The flaw in your performance represents the area in which you're most likely to make mistakes in the future.

If he said your character was getting lost in all the scenery, you may need to work harder at standing up for yourself in life. Who's the star of this show anyway?

On the other hand, if he told you that you were hogging the stage, you might want to try toning things down a notch. Nobody like a ham.

And if he said you just weren't exciting to watch, you should try to liven yourself up a little. If even you can't sit through your performance, think how the rest of the world feels.

4. Your words to the empty theater are the words you picture yourself saying at the end of your life. Recognize any of these famous last words?

"Thank God that is over! I need a drink!" - An understandable sentiment, but there aren't any bars where you're headed.

"I couldn't have done it without the little people". - It's good to remember the people who helped us on the way.

"That wasn't so bad." - Maybe that's the best parting line that any of us can hpe to be able to say.

"Look out, world, her I come." - Just where is it exactly that you think you're going?

The Lost Kokology File - The Stolen Berries

Look what I found in my draft folder over the weekend.
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What is Kokology?

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• Don’t try to predict answers 
• Be honest with yourself 
• Be prepared 
• Keep an open mind
  

Everyone likes a nice person and most of us try to be good in our own lives. Why is it, then that there are so few people in the world who are good all the time? As hard as you may try, there are always those rotten days of moments and weakness where it just feels better to be bad. Whether that takes the form of driving too fast on the highway, cheating on a test, or "liberating" a box of pens from the office, we've all done things we can't be proud of or justify. The key to becoming a truly good person is in accepting the bad parts of your own personality and admitting that you're not perfect, not in trying to act like a saint while the devil on your shoulder whispers in your ear. We all succumb to temptation sometimes. But in the next scenario you might just get caught...

1. On a stroll through the countryside, you come across a field of delicious-looking strawberries. Your stomach starts to rumble, and there's no one else around. Only a fence stands between you and a free lunch. How high is that fence?

2. You sneak into the garden and begin to help yourself to the fruit. How many berries did you eat?

3. Suddenly the farmer whose berries you're stealing appears out of nowhere and starts yelling at you. What do you say in your own defense?

4. After all is said and done, how did the berries taste? And looking back, how did you feel after your berry-stealing adventure was over?

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Strawberries -seductively juicy and red - are common symbol of sexual attraction and desire. The way you envisioned this scenario helps us to understand your attitude toward forbidden romance and stolen love.
1. The height of the fence you imagined around the field is a measure of your own level of self-control and resistance to sexual temptation. The higher the fence, the greater your own defenses. People who imagined a total enclosure exercise admirable restraint. Those of you who said it was only a string tied around some be at about knee height run a higher than average risk of getting burned by the flames of love.

2. The number of berries you said you would steal is the number of people you can believe yourself in love (or lust) with at any given time. If you said you'd quit after eating just one, you're likely to be faithful in your own love life as well (or at least a devoted serial monogamist). Those of you who got onto double digits may need to think seriously about applying the brakes to your libido. Nobody can keep that pace up forever.

3. The excuses you made to the farmer represent the way you'd defend yourself if you got caught having an affair. What was your excuse?

"I'm so sorry. I promise I'll never do it again" Sometimes a full confession and a promise to behave is the best way to get yourself off the hook.

"They looked so good, I just couldn’t help myself" Well actually you did help yourself – to somebody else’s berries. But honesty is the best policy. After all, it worked for George Washington, didn’t it? If you keep it up, maybe someday you could be president too.

"Hey those berries were great! Do you have if I have a couple more?" Farmers have shotguns. Spouses have lawyers. Fortunately you still have a chance to reconsider your choice of words.

4. The way you described the experience and the taste of the berries gives an indication of how you imagine yourself feeling when looking back on a past affair.
"Actually, they didn’t taste good as they looked. The whole thing wasn’t even worth the effort" All too true for most affairs. Chalk it up to experience and put it behind you.

"So sweet! So juicy and delicious! I’ve never tasted anything like it!" Uh, let’s just say you’re addicted to love.
"The berries were nothing special, but all in all it kind of fun" Statistically speaking, you’re in the high-risk group for repeat offenders.

Building a New Tomorrow

Are you ready to play KOKOLOGY?

What is Kokology?

Tips: 
• Say the first thing that pops into your head 
• Don’t try to predict answers 
• Be honest with yourself 
• Be prepared 
• Keep an open mind
  

{Book 1, Pg. 31}  The clock struck twelve, the ball dropped in Times Square, and the sound of champagne corks popping was heard around the globe. And after all the buildup, hoopla, and hype, after the apocalyptic anxieties about global warming, and eager anticipation, the world somehow managed to find its way safely into another new year.

1. You are working for an urban planning corporation and have been assigned to the community development team for a major new millennium project. You have been asked to come up with an inspirational theme for the city. What theme do you propose?

2. The project team has a number of members, each with a certain set of experiences and skills. Why do you think you were selected to participate in this project? (Give as many reasons as you like.)

3. What kind of person is the project manager? Describe his or her personality and qualities as a leader.

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Towns and cities are natural symbols of social life. Most of the cities we are familiar with sprang up unplanned and spread outward and upward in a seemingly random fashion. But the scenario asks you to deliberately plan a city for the future, giving your mind the chance to express its vision of an ideal setting for human interaction. Your answers reveal your approach and feelings about the social world around you.

1. The theme you selected for the new city is something you feel is absolutely essential to your own happiness as a member of society. And for most people that means the very thing they sense is most sorely lacking in their environment at present.

Was your theme something ideal, like "harmony," "peace," or "Mother Nature"? We all feel the need for more of those these days. Or did you pick something along the lines of a cartoon fantasy world where everyone smiles all the time and the sun is always shining? That may actually be an easier goal to achieve, but you're facing some strong competition in Orlando, Anaheim, and Tokyo.

2. The reasons you gave for being picked for the team are the strengths you see in yourself that no one else recognizes. That may be because those "strengths" are not quite as strong as you might like to think. The people around you are the most objective judges of your potential. Don't be afraid to listen to what others have to say about your abilities--their evaluation can steer you away from the dead-end streets of overconfidence and self-deception.

3. The team manager reveals your own image of yourself in the future. Do you see yourself developing into a supportive, motivated, and inspirational leader, or a harsh and unreasonable slave driver? If it's the latter, you may want to start reconsidering the particular path to personal development you're currently heading down. Even Scrooge got the chance to repent.

Note: I have decided to give Kokology a rest in the new year. Today, Thursday December 31st will be the last Kokology post on Slightly Off-Center. Thank you all so much for your perticipation... I have had a really great time playing Kokology will you all, it's been fun!

Kokology - Blue Coat, Yellow Coat

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{Book 1, Pg. 38} Gathering in the town square for the lighting of the Christmas tree gives people a chance to come together as a community and celebrate the end of another year. It’s a time of nostalgia and a chance for new memories to be born. People are in the holiday spirit, strangers act like friends, and a sense of peace is all around.

The night is cold, and you have come with a group of friends and acquaintances to watch the lighting of the tree. In the group of people with youm one person is wearing a yellow coat and another person is in blue. Who are the people wearing the blue and yellow coats? (Give the names of people you know.)

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In psychology, bright colors such as yellow are associated with warm and positive feelings, while cool colors like blue are linked with cold, negative emotions. It may surprise even you, but the person you named as wearing the yellow coat is someone you like or who makes you feel happy, while something about the person in the blue coat leaves you cold.

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Kokology - The Big Blowup

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{Pg. 110/Book1} An erupting volcano is one of the most awesome displays of nature's fury, belching forth hot lava and poisonous smoke that can reduce the surrounding landscape to grey ash. The destruction it brings overwhelms everything in its path, and it's easy to understand how ancient civilizations could have regarded volcanoes as signs of the anger of the gods. Even today volcanoes seem to be sending us a not so subtle message about our place in the grand scheme of things.

You are standing within view of an erupting volcano. Which of the following best describes your thoughts at watching the spectacle?

1. "Maybe this is nature's way of warning us to stop destroying the earth."

2. "I guess the pressure just got too high inside there."

3. " Wow - what a sight! I'm impressed!"

4. "It's in the nature of these things to blow up. Big deal."

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The thoughts you had about the volcano are linked to the way you react to explosive power, specifically the anger of a superior. We've all run into a boss, teacher, coach, or parent who throws the occasional tantrum - this scenario shows how you deal with those blowups.

1. "Maybe this is nature's way of warning us to stop destroying the earth."

You recognize when you're responsible for other people's anger and are willing to accept the blame. That same sensitivity and adult attitude lets you clear up any problems you might have caused.

2. "I guess the pressure just got too high inside there."

You place the blame of any problems squarely on someone else's shoulders. After all, if you thought you were doing something wrong, you wouldn't have done it in the first place, right?

3. " Wow - what a sight! I'm impressed!"

You accept criticism and even outbursts in a positive way, but that's not to say you take them lightly. That sunny outlook is sure to make a favorable impression on superiors in the long run, after they've forgotten whatever it was they were yelling for.

4. "It's in the nature of these things to blow up. Big deal."

Strong words, tirades, and harsh critiques leave you unimpressed, probably because you don't listen to them. Sure, that's a low-stress way to get through a chewing-out, but you're running the risk of never learning from your own mistakes. Maybe you should start paying a little more attention to all that sound and fury; it might be signifying something after all.

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Kokology - Your Name Here

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{Book 2, Pg. 59} The world is full of other people, and their number grows day by day.  For Most of us, our social worlds also expand a little each day.  Most of our contacts with others are random, chance encounters with people we may never meet a second time.  But Sometimes fate has other plans, and the stranger you met just yesterday may change your life tomorrow.  that uncertainty is one of the things that keep life interesting.  Yes, each of our circles of acquaintances is constantly expanding.  But when you take a moment to reflect, you may be surprised at how that circle is not as wide as you might have thought.

(For this exercise, you'll need a blank paper and a pencil or pen.)

1. Write your name in a box in the center of the paper.
2. Try to fill the remaining blank space on the page with the names of people you know.  take as long as you need, but try to fill in the entire page.
   
3. Draw a single horizontal line through the center of the page.  It should cut through the box with you name in it.
4. Choose a name at random in each of the two sections of the page and circle them both.

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Randomness is a simple and familiar concept, but one the mind has difficulty achieving inn practice. Even a conscious and honest attempt to make a random selection is never truly free from the influences of subtle biases and unconscious preferences. The names you picked from the crowded page were determined at least in part by your own perceptions of the people named and how you position them in relation to yourself.

The name you circles in the upper half of the page belongs to someone you respect or see as standing above you. The person whose name you circled in the bottom half is someone you take for granted or look down on. You may be surprised to find that these feelings are in no way related to whether or not you like the people in question. Love and respect do not always go hand in hand.

Kokology - Skimming the Surface

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{pg. 66, Book 2} We humans excel at many things. However, floating isn't one of them. Sure, with a little practice and a lot of effort we might manage to keep our heads above water for a few laps in the swimming pool, but none of us would fare very well if dropped in the middle of the ocean without a life preserver. But, as always seems to be the case, human ingenuity has made up for the short-comings of the body and provided us with boats. And thanks to those seaworthy craft, now there is no spot on the surface of the world's waters that lies beyond our reach.

Imagine that you are a boat floating on the water. Which of the following describes you?
1. A raft of rough-hewn logs.
2. A sturdy rowboat.
3. A racing yacht.
4. A cruise ship.

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Ships and boats are most at home when surrounded on all sides by nothing but water, unimpeded by obstructions or boundaries of any kind. Picturing yourself as a boat on the open sea conjured a similar image of life unfettered by restrictions or limits. The type of boat you saw yourself as is linked to the ways your prefer to spend those precious moments when your time is truly your own.

1. A raft of rough-hewn logs.
You spend your free time drifting from place to place and enjoying outdoor activities. Your interests range from intense sports like kayaking and rock climbing to relaxing pastimes like camping, fishing, and simply wandering about. The important common thread is a natural setting, and you might be just as happy to spend a day lying on your back in the grass, staring up at the clouds.

2. A sturdy rowboat.
Nothing relaxes you like working up a healthy sweat, and it shows in the ways you spend your days off. High-impact, low-impact, team sports, or solo, you love the way it feels to put your body through its paces.

3. A racing yacht.
What better way to spend a lazy summer afternoon than racing around at breakneck speed? Up-tempo recreations are your preferred mode of entertainment, whether they take the form of fast-paced sports, high-stakes gambling, or games requiring split-second timing.

4. A cruise ship.
Everyday life is exciting enough as it is, and slow-paced, cerebral activities are just what the doctor ordered when you have time to unwind. A game of chess or a crossword puzzle, a leisurely walk, a nice long book, perhaps a game of shuffleboard--these are the things that you look to when you while away the hours.

Kokology - On Your Birthday

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{Pg.27, Book 1} Your Birthday is the one day a year when you're justified in expecting things to be just a little nicer than usual. Well wishes and congratulations, presents and cards, maybe even a party or romantic dinner for two.

It's your birthday today, and when you check your mailbox you see you've gotten a card from someone you would have never expected. who is the sender? You have also received a number of gifts from family & Friends. Of that group, who sent you the biggest package? (Give the names of people in your life when answering the quiz.)

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The responses you gave signify your true feelings about people in your life, feelings you might not even be aware of yourself. The person who unexpectedly sent you a cards is actually someone you would like to care more about you or give you more attention. In short, the person you named as the sender is someone you'be been hesitant to approach, or just a friend you haven't heard from in a while? Maybe it's time you made the first move toward bridging that gap.

On the surface, you might associate thebiggest package you received with good feelings about the sender. But from a psychological perspective, the person you named as the sender s someone whose affections you take for granted. This doesn't nessarily signify a lack of respect, but you definately feel confident of their feelings for you. Be careful not to get overconfident. What feels like security to you may look like plain selfishness to others.

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Kokology - The Labyrinth

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{Pg. 135, Book 1} Remember the Kokology quiz "The Ride Of Your Life"? Well lets return once again to the amusement park to continue our exploration into the attractions of the unconscious mind. You're already familiar with some of the rides, like the dizzing excitement of the roller coaster. The house of horrors still lies waiting, but that's best left for couples to explore. How about a walk through the labyrinth instead?

You found your way through the giant maze and are standing at the exit. Which of these statements best describes how you feel?

1. "That was too easy. I was done in no time. What a piece of cake!"

2. "Well, it took a while to get through, but looking back, I guess it was really no big deal."

3. "Boy, was I lost! For a while there I thought I was never going to get out."

4. "I hooked up with a group of people inside and they showed me the way out. Otherwise I might still be in there."

My Answer: #3 - "Boy, was I lost!..."

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Key to The Labyrinth

The winding and circuitous paths of a maze represent the path you find for yourself in life, with all its false turns, backtracking, and dead ends. And adolescence is the time in life when it's easiest to feel lost and confused. Your experience in the labyrinth corresponds to the way you remember spending the years leading up to adulthood.

1. "That was too easy. I was done in no time. What a piece of cake!"

Although many people look back on their teenage years as a time of stress and confusion, for you it was nothing but fun. You weren't consumed with soul-searching or traumatized by peer pressure-actually the whole experience was like one big party. Of course, that may mean your true test in life still lies ahead.

2. "That was too easy. I was done in no time. What a piece of cake!"

Your school days were not easy for you, and it's more than likely you spent many a night worried over the same problems we all did-love, friendship, and the future. But that experience has helped forge you into the person you are, and the lessons you learned will sustain you through any difficult times to come.

3. ‘"Boy, was I lost! For a while there I thought I was never going to get out."

Although nearby everyone has rough year or two growing up, you took worrying about life to the extremes, dwelling on problems that exited only in your head and torturing yourself with second guesses and self-doubt. That may have added a certain amount of seriousness and depth to your character, but now it's time for you to loosen up and enjoy your life. You've earned it.

4. "I hooked up with a group of people inside and they showed me the way out. Otherwise I might still be in there."

The reason for the satisfaction you feel in life today lies with the friends you made and the relationships you formed during your youth. You had your worries like everyone else, but it seemed there was always someone for you to turn to when things got tough. Be grateful for the good luck you've had so far. Now it's your turn to return the favor and be there for others in need.

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Kokology - A Flash Of Red

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{Pg. 158, Book2} From red as a rose to red as a beet, when we see red it affects us emotionally. Scientific experiments have shown that people asked to remain in a room with red walls become more passionate, aggressive, and easily aroused than people in rooms with muted backgrounds. Research has even shown that exposure to red can make the body temperature rise. Red may be at the low end of the spectrum of light, but it has power to move us like no other color.

Imagine three women, each of whom is fond of the color red and uses it to accent her appearance. The first of these women has her nails painted red, the second wears red lipstick, and the third has her hair colored the same shade. Now imagine their personalities and describe each one.

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Although in some ways we all react similarly to the color red, there are also significant differences in our psychological responses. This is not simply a matter of taste or acculturation but seems to have roots that sink deeper into the mind. In the natural world, red is the universal sign of danger, a way for one animal to let potential foes and competitors know, "Careful, I bite and I'm poisonous." But this same shade is also powerfully seductive, and for animals attuned to the same sexual frequency, it can signal that the mating season has begun. In nature as in fashion, it's not the color itself; it's what you do with it.

The images you had of the three red-accented women reveal the kinds of women you view as friend and foe. This results in different interpretations, depending on whether the respondent is male or female.

Female respondents.

The woman with red nails is seen as a threat and represents the type of woman you can't imagine yourself ever getting along with. On the other hand, you feel a strange and compelling attraction to the woman with red lips. The woman with red hair is an image of the type of woman that you hope you will never become.

Male respondents.

The red-nailed woman is the kind of person you fear will use or make a fool of you, while the red-lipped woman is the type you can imagine yourself falling wildly in love with. The redheaded woman represents the type you can't see yourself being attracted to, no matter how physically beautiful she may be.

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Kokology - Deep in the Mountains

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{pg. 32}The mountains and the sea—nature has a power that draws us to her. After all we are all nature’s children, born into her world and fed on her bounty. No matter what marvels technology may develop, getting back to nature lets us feel truly alive. Medical science may make advances, but the best medicine will always be nature’s own healing power.

Your next journey will take you back to that green world, and what better setting for you to rediscover your natural self?

1. You have set off to climb a mountain, in search of a fabulously rare stone. What is your impression of the mountain as you stand at its foot?

2. After a hard search, you still haven’t found the stone, and now the sun has fallen. What will you do next?

3. You have finally discovered the stone you were seeking. What kind of stone is it? Describe its size, weight, and value.

4. Now it is time to come down from the mountain and return home. What parting words do you have for the mountain, and what is its reply?

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The mountain that looms before you represents your father, or a father figure in your life. In psychological terms, it is a manifestation of the archetype of the “wise old man.” The stone you seek symbolizes abilities and strengths you must discover within yourself on your own journey to adult independence.

1. Your impression of the mountain show the image you have of your father. Was it difficult and unforgiving? Gentle and easily conquered? Or did you have an idealized image of a magnificent peak that somehow seemed to welcome you and encourage you in your quest?

2. The stone you are searching for represents your as yet undiscovered talent or strength. Your response to this question shows whether you will ever realize that untapped potential.

People who say they’d keep searching for the stone no matter what tend to show the same persistence and determination in their own lives, never giving up even when efforts seem fruitless.

Those who said they’d call it quits for the day but come back again to continue the search are the type who pace themselves, spreading their efforts over a long period of time. There are probably more than a few late bloomers in this group.

People who gave up looking for the stone altogether are in danger of never fulfilling their true potential.

3. The way you described the stone shows your feeling of self-worth. How big and heavy was it, and what did you think of its value?

“Oh, about twenty dollars or so.” Hmmm, that’s not much of an appraisal, is it?

“It turned out to be a huge diamond worth millions!” Hold on now, let’s not get carried away with ourselves.

4. Your parting words to the mountain reveal what you have always wanted, but never been able, to say to your father. Do you recognize any of these patters?

You: Thanks for everything.
Mountain: You take care of yourself.

Did you have that kind of ideal exchange? Or did it go more like this:

You: Well, it looks like I’m finally through with you.
Mountain: You can say that again!

Maybe it’s time you and your father sat down for a talk.

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Kokology - When Is a Door Not a Door?

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It isn't every day that you have the time to take a leisurely stroll around the neighborhood: a stroll without purpose or destination, a chance to stretch your legs, let the mind wander, and get reacquainted with some old familiar sights. On your way, perhaps you'd stop in at a cozy coffee shop, explore the paths of a favorite park, or take the opportunity to do some window-shopping. Then there are those days when it's enough just to let your feet decide your course...

Picture yourself on a stroll through town. The day is beautiful and you're half-lost in a daydream. You turn onto a street that you've never been down before, and as you walk you pass a beautiful house set somewhat back from the street. Pausing a moment to admire the lovely home, you notice the door is half-open. Why is the door ajar?

1. The house is being burglarized.
2. The owner forgot to close it.
3. The owner is inside, sweeping out the entrance way.

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Doors have a twofold significance: they may be passageways, but they can also be barriers as well. In particular, the front door of a house represents its first line of defense, all that stands between its inhabitants and the uncertainties of the world outside. By imagining as open a door that should normally be closed, you envision a scenario or vulnerability and exposure. On a subconscious level, the reason you imagined teh door being open is linked to the ways that you leave yourself open and expose your own weaknesses to others.

1. The house is being burgarlized.
You instantly assume the worst in any situation, and this trait is nowhere more evident than when things actually do go wrong. You never get flustered in a crisis, but only because you're much too busy panicking. So the next time disaster strikes, it's important to keep a clear head and remember to take a few deep breaths first and count to ten. Then you can faint.

2. The owner forgot to close it.
You aren't the type to get carried away in crisis situations. On the contrary, you're so relaxed that you may not notice a crisis is occuring at all. The mistakes you make are caused more by oversight than bad intentions, but the end results for you (and for people around you) are the same.

3. The owner is inside, sweeping out the entranceway.
You may appear to be a laid-back sort, but you never let your guard down. Achieving that constant state of relaxed alertness is what has made you into the mature individual you are. Of course, you still have your human weaknesses; you just don't put them on display for all the world to see.

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Kokology - A Glazed Expression

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{Book 2, pg. 23}Arts and craft class is almost a right of passage in our society, a grueling test of the human spirit in which young initiates strive to force rubber cement, pipe cleaners, modeling clay, and papier-mache to bend to their will. And few of us can claim to have managed to avoid the experience of creating an object--be it ceramic mask, napkin holder, or the obligatory ashtray--only to be confronted by and empty expanse demanding that you do something, anything, to decorate it.

A plain white coffee mug of your own design sits ready for the kiln and is staring at you in blank anticipation. You have chosen to use blue glaze; now, if only you could decide on the pattern....

Which of the following patterns do you paint in blue on the mug?

1. Stripes.
2. Polka Dots.
3. Checks.
4. Wavy lines.

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Blue is the color most deeply associated with the inner workings of the mind, from imagination to intuition to intellect. The white surface of your coffee mug provides a blank slate and give s your mind free rein to express itself in the most comfortable, natural way. In this sense, the pattern you selected reflects the structure and strengths of your mind in its approach to creativity and problem solving.

1. Stripes: You favor a direct and clear-cut approach, making you a keen decision maker able to resolve problems and put plans into action instantly. It's only natural that people perceive you as a leader and pillar of strength in difficult times.

2. Polka dots: Your strength lies in the adaptive, artistic nature of your mind. This may make you appear to be a little offbeat, perhaps even eccentric to some, but you make a real contribution to the world as a creator with a unique vision.

3. Checks: You excel at mastering the demans of the everyday, but in no way does that make you average or ordinary. Few people are able to organize their lives with such quiet efficiency. And the result of your efforts is that you always seem to have the time, wealth, and compassion to share with those in need.

4. Wavy lines: You gift is in generating an atmosphere in which it's easy and comfortable to feel and express love. It's not that you crave attention or affection, but people just naturally feel good about taking care of and supporting you. And all that goodwill has a ripple effect, touching the lives of those around you in subtle ways. Ask the people who know and love you--the world is a better place for your being in it.

Kokology - Where The Sky Meets The Sea

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(Book 2/pg. 61) There are breathtaking mountain vistas, sweeping metropolitan skylines, rugged tracts of forest that stretch as far as the eye can see, and gentle country landscapes dotted with fields and farms, but of all the scenic views in the world, none can stir the imagination and calm the soul like the unbroken line where the sky meets the sea. That blue horizon is a vast space inviting the mind to relax and unwind, to soar above and dive within, to dream...

You are staying at a resort hotel with ocean view. Lying on your bed, you gaze out a huge bay window across the cool blue waters, and lulled by the scene, you drift off to sleep. Which of the following view greets you when you awake?

1. A bright midday sun burning over the sea.
2. The dark ocean sleeping beneath a starry night sky.
3. A cool mist rolling in over the waters.
4. The sun just beginning to sink beneath the horizon at dusk.

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In myths and ancient religions from around the world, the sea and the sky are pictured as an eternal couple, forever holding each other in a loving embrace. The way you envisaged the scene out your hotel room window is your vision of the ideal relationship between two loving partners and shows the things you seek most from love.

1. A bright midday sun burning over the sea
Passionate excitement and intensity are essential to your ideal romance. For you, love isn't true love if it doesn't burn like fire, and if that means added danger, it always proves worth the risks in the end.

2. The dark ocean sleeping beneath a starry night sky
Others may think you're a little hokey or old-fashioned, but you place the greatest emphasis on things like commitment and faithful devotion in a relationship. Your love affairs may not set the sky ablaze, but they will never cause you any sleepless nights, either. And when other loves have clouded over or burst into flames, you will still be enjoying those nights of untroubled sleep-- together.

3. A cool mist rolling in over the waters
The line between friendship and love is blurred for you; the two inevitably flow into each other. Your perfect relationship is with someone you can tell your secrets to, share laughter and tears with, and just relax and be yourself around. You refuse to believe that your lover can't also be your best friend.

4. The sun just beginning to sink beneath the horizon at dusk.
You seek a storybook romance that inspires the world with its picture-postcard perfection. Everything has to be just right, from the meeting, to the first kiss, to the place settings at the wedding, to the house with the white picket fence. True love is a once-in-a-lifetime experience, and you see no reason to settle for less than the very best.

Side note:
Just the other night hubby and I went down to a favourite look-off spot where we often go for some quiet contemplation. As we were driving away I mentioned how lucky we were to live so close to such beauty. I could never imagine living in a place where I wasn't a moment's walk or drive away from the ocean.

What is something in your part of the world that you could not imagine living near?

Kokology - Reading You Like A Book

(book 2./Pg.52) Some are very fussy about their books, refusing to read anything outside of a particular genre or subject matter. Others read indiscriminately, devouring volume after volume without pattern or preference. Many read only on occasion or when work or study demands it. And then there are those who simply don't read at all if they can avoid it.

But for those who do read, not just out of necessity, but for the sheer pleasure and relaxation it affords, finding a good book is almost like making a new friend. There's a sense of simultaneous familiarity and discovery. It's as if a window has opened into a previously unimagined world, but one you sensed was waiting for you all along. Sometimes it's almost as if the book has chosen you.

1. A book lies open in front of you. What type of story does it contain?

2. You begin to read and soon find that you yourself are a character in the story. What kind of role do you play?

3. You read further and come to a section where the pages have been damaged, making them nearly impossible to read. What part of the story is it?

4. You have just closed the cover after finishing the book. How was the ending?

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While reading habits and preferences may vary widely from person to person, we all share a common experience in which books and reading were an inevitable part of life: our school years. In our culture, books and school are inextricably linked, and the answers you gave in response to this scenario likewise echo your own experiences during school.

1. The type of story you imagined reflects your general impression of your school years.

Does your answer suggest you lived through a comedy, a mystery, or a romance? Then again, who among us didn't?

Or perhaps it was an erotic novel? Either you were a very precocious child or you had an overactive imagination.

A Shakespearean tragedy? The fact that you survived all five acts has added nobility to your character.

2. The role you saw yourself in is the image you have of yourself in your time as a student.

Were you the star of the tale? A sidekick? Comic relief? Or no more than a bit player with only a single line of dialogue on page 283? It may just be that your character was being developed for the sequel.

3. The scene described in the damaged pages mirrors a situation in which you were hurt during your youth. Broken hearts can hurt as much as an act of violence, and even seemingly minor traumas can take a lifetime to heal. Although at first there might not seem to be any immediate connection to your life, if you think back to your past, it's more than likely you'll find some buried painful memory associated with the scene.

4. The ending of the story is an expression of your feelings of closure (or a lack thereof) regarding your days spent at school.

Did you answer something like "And they rode off into the sunset to live happily ever after"? A little clichéd, perhaps, but you can't argue with success.

Perhaps you envisioned a story in which your character dies in the end? It's likely you greeted your graduation as a chance to be reborn into a new life.

Or was the ending a cliff-hanging "To be continued . . ."? In a way, that's the most accurate response you could give. You'll just have to wait and see how the next episode turns out.

Kokology - House Hunting

{Introduction to the game}
(Book 2 / pg. 169) You are house hunting in a new area that you are not familiar with because that's where your job took you.

You see a house, and on the outside it looks like your dream home. It is reasonably priced and the outside looks nice and the yard is pretty.

You enter the front door and it's the living room.

1.) How big is the room? Is it spacious? Is it small?
2.) What color are the walls?
3.) What is on the floor? Carpet? Wood?
4.) There is a mirror on the wall. What is it like? Big and ornate? Small and round? Modern and long? Antique with a crack?

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1.) How big is the room? Is it spacious? Is it small?

The size of the room denotes your feelings about moving to a new place. If it is expansive and roomy you have high hopes for your new life in a strange town. You expect that you'll make lots of new friends, work will be great, and life will be peachy. But if the room is small, you're afraid of what is in store for your future. You have fear and anxiety about moving away. Will you ever be able to settle down in a place where you don't know anyone? If the room is in-between, you have a healthy balance of anticipation for what is to come.

2.) What color are the walls?

If it is a light shade, you are an optimistic person. If it is dark shade, you are creative. You probably want to get right to decorating that very room!

The colors describe your personality:

White: Inviting, No-Nonsense, Initiating, Patient, Orderly, Secure, Flexible, Free, Open, Mature, Considerate
Black: Bold, Strong-Willed, Determined, Reckless, Prideful, Motivated, Powerful, Dynamic
Brown: Solid, Reliable, Genuine, Natural, Earthy, Mellow, Unique
Red: Energetic, Vibrant, Fiery, Dramatic, Intense, Spontaneous
Orange: Happy, Confident, Joyful, Affectionate, Hopeful, Social, Witty, Zealous
Yellow: Warm, Playful, Friendly, Funny, Forgiving, Enthusiastic
Green: Humble, Understanding, Intelligent, Sympathetic
Blue: Faithful,Inspiring, Peaceful, Compassionate, Trustworthy, Sincere
Purple: Imaginative, Idealistic, Visionary, Truth-Seeker, Intuitive, Dreamer, Creative
Pink: Graceful, Gentle, Kind, Quiet, Feminine, Caring, Enthusiastic, Loyal, Romantic

3.) What is on the floor? Carpet? Wood?

Hard wood floor:
You are a very grounded, responsible, and realistic person. People may not want to hear the truth from you, but they're going to get it.

Carpet:
You're more about possibilities rather than what actually is. You would rather dream up solutions to problems rather than tackling them head on.

Wooden floor with a rug on it:
You are a grounded person, but you also leave room for imagination and daydreams. You feet may be on the ground, but you're head is in the clouds.

4. There is a mirror in the middle of the room. How would you describe it?
The mirror repsents how you see yourself.

Big and ornate:
You are a dramatic person with lots of flair. You live larger than life and believe yourself to have an important purpose for being on earth. Other people might see you as being a bit full of yourself, but you know you just have confidence and self-esteem.

Small and round:
You see yourself as being almost insignificant in this great world of billions of people. You kind of wish people would pay more attention to you. Remember: While you are only one person, you matter very much to those who love you.

Modern and long:
You're an honest person with yourself and with others. You see yourself with pretty objective eyes.

Old and cracked:
You are true to your heart and you love yourself just the way you are. You have a lot of character. But you wish other people didn't judge you and would love you for who you are on the inside, not the outside.

Kokology - Postmarked: The Future

{Introduction to the game}
(Book 2, pg. 20) Lounging around the house one Saturday afternoon, you are startled out of your reverie by the doorbell. When you open the door, you're greeted by a most unusual surprise--a pair of animal messengers has come to deliver news of your life in the future! But when you open their messages, you see they contain very different predictions of what lies in store for you. One of the animals has brought a letter foretelling a life of happiness and contentment; the other prophesies only disaster and despair.

Which of the animals below brought glad tidings and which an omen of doom? (Pick a different animal for each.)

1. Tiger.
2. Dog.
3. Sheep.
4. Parrot.
5. Tortoise.

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For most people, the future is greatly influenced by their selection of a mate or life partner. The animal messengers in this scenario actually correspond to your own perceptions of the kinds of people likely to bring you joy and grie. Animals are rich and complex in psychological significance, with a range of positive and negative attributes and associations. In this scenario, the animal you chose as the bearer of the message of happiness represents the type of person you perceive as an ideal spouse, while the doomsayer animal is the type you fear would drag you down into the depths.

1. Tiger.
glad tidings: You see yourself happiest with an ambitious and powerful mate, possessed of an indomitable will to rule.
gloom and doom: You dread the prospect of a vain, tyrannical partner who struts around like a lord of the jungle and growls at any mention of sharing housework.

2. Dog.
glad tidings: Unquestioning loyalty and absolute devotion are the things you seek most in your mate.
gloom and doom: You are utterly incompatible with those who try to please everyone and fret over what others might be thinking.

3. Sheep.
glad tidings: You see the key to contentment in a warmhearted nurturing spouse.
gloom and doom: You fear winding stuck with a boring homebody content to spend each day grazing the same old patch of grass.

4. Parrot.
glad tidings: Nothing would suit you better than a talkative, fun-loving partner who knows how to make you laugh.
gloom and doom: No one could suit you worse than a chattering layabout with a severe allergy to work.

5. Tortoise.
glad tidings: You match made in heaven is serious, dependable, and sure to be there in your hour of need.
gloom and doom: The prospect of a lifetime spent with a frustratingly slow-moving, slow-witted partner is your worst nightmare.

Kokology - Wave After Wave

(Book 2) Perhaps it’s because we instinctively trace the roots of life back to the oceans, perhaps it’s something hardwired deep within our brains; whatever the reason may be, the sea holds a special power over us. The tang of the salt air, the fine spray of the surf, the soft crashing of the waves-the net effect is to stimulate and soothe. Sometimes a stroll along a sandy beach can transport you much further from your everyday reality than the actual distance you walk. That may be why the sea holds a special place in lovers’ hearts. It provides them with the chance to journey together, if only for a brief time, into another world.

Grab a pencil and paper and jot down the answers to the following:

1.) You are walking along a quiet beach. As you wander the dunes, you spot a surfboard washed up on the sand. Describe the surf-board and the impression it makes on you.

2.) You climb onto the board and paddle out to try your luck on the waves. How are the conditions for surfing today?

3.) You have managed to get to your feet and are experiencing the thrill of actually riding the wave, when suddenly you wipe out and tumble headfirst into the water. What do you think, feel, or try to scream as you struggle to find your way back to the surface.

4.) You finally emerge from the water unscathed, and looking back toward the beach, you see that a person you know has been watching you. Who is that person?

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1. I notice the board laying at the water's edge. I look around and wonder where it came from and where is the surfer this board belongs to?
Gentle waves roll over the metallic blue board, the sun shines directly onto the surface giving the board a glittery-magical gleam. I feel a little apprehensive sliding the surfboard out of the water. But as I'm walking along the water's edge, board tucked under my arm, I start to feel empowered and confident and a little excited to give it a try.

2. The water is calm on this day, small waves, nothing too menacing. I paddle out feeling the gentle lap of the water against my body, the sunshine is warm on my face and arms. I feel good, peaceful.
Then I see it, the perfect wave for me. I paddle out and ready myself, then I'm up. I feel great as the wave carries me along, skimming the waters surface.

3. Suddenly I'm wiping out. I feel panic, my arms flailing through the air as I struggle for control, and then I hit the water hard and go under. The wind knocked from me, I keep calm and kick with all my might, breaking the surface I gasp for air. I look around for the board, spot it not too far from me, swim to it and get back on. I say to myself: "What a rush, lets go again!"

4. As I start to paddle for another try, I see a person watching me from the shore. I paddle closer to get a better look but see it is someone I don't recognize. Perhaps it is the owner of the abandoned surfboard? Or just some lurker admiring my poise and technique ;)

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Most of us sense intuitively the strong psychological associations between the sea and sex. The way you imagined your experience on the waves tells us something about your expectations and desires in the sexual realm.

1.] Throughout history and across cultures, the sea is portrayed as feminine. Against that backdrop, the surfboard provides an overt example of what Freud referred to as the “phallic symbol.”
Women:
Your description of the surfboard corresponds with your image and impression of masculine characteristics.
Men:
Your answer shows your perception of your own physical sexuality.

2.] The surfing conditions you described reveal your own hopes and expectations from sex.

3.] Total submersion within the churning waters is a metaphor for the peak of sexual pleasure. Your thoughts and feelings as your struggled upwards correspond to those you experience in the throes of ecstasy.

4.] The person you pictured standing on the beach is someone you show intense interest in, in a sexual sense. This doesn’t necessarily indicate active sexual desire; it may be that you’re simply curious about what that person is like in the most intimate and unguardable of moments. Then again maybe, just maybe, that’s something that you want to find out firsthand.